Social media is integrated into our lives. We share our favorite moments, connect with family and friends and learn about the world around us. But can social media be the downfall in a divorce proceeding?

The answer depends on how you conduct yourself on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. If you post effectively and avoid major mistakes, social media integrates into your life without implications on your divorce.

What to avoid posting online

Whether it’s before documents are drafted or after the divorce is finalized, there are several mistakes people should avoid while posting on social media:

  • Vent about your former spouse online — it may seem tempting to expose all your spouse’s flaws on Facebook, but it will hurt you in the long run. Not only does it seem tasteless, but it may also damage your perception in court.
  • Posting about your newest purchase — most people do not know your social media posts are eligible as pieces of evidence. If you post a lot about your expenses online, your spouse can use that as evidence for higher alimony payments or child support.
  • Discussing personal details — many people overshare online but oversharing a divorce proceeding lands divorcees in hot water. You should be aware of what you are posting and who reads your posts. Even your close friends share information with your spouse.
  • Involving your children online — Even after a divorce is finalized, your child custody may be modified. If you are always dragging your children into your divorce matters online, you may find your spouse seeking more time with the children in court.

Social media does not have to dictate our divorce; only we have the power to monitor what we post online. If you are concerned about your previous social media history, you may want to consult with family members or friends for advice.