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'Keeping score' could mean your marriage is heading for divorce

Do you ever feel like your spouse is obsessed with "keeping score" in your relationship?

For instance, maybe they said something hurtful to you, and you told them how it made you feel. You asked why they would do it. Suddenly, they had a whole list of things you had said to them over the past 10 years of your relationship.

Important factors for an Iowa custody modification

Children need their parents, and many would say the opposite is true as well. However, splitting time between parents after divorce means that every moment counts.

As children grow, their needs change and may cause a need for adjustments in a set plan. Particularly regarding custody modifications in Iowa, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Report: 700 people arrested for impaired driving in two days

News reports are just coming out about a campaign that the police ran in Iowa and neighboring states on April 19 and April 20. They claim that around 737 people got arrested while driving under the influence in just those two days.

The campaign was called "Drive high? Get a DUI" and it focused on searching out drivers who had used marijuana before getting behind the wheel. After all, you can face charges for any type of impairment, not just alcohol.

Study: Popular teens run into legal problems

It's never fair to stereotype any group of people, including teenagers. Regardless of their social standing at this impressionable age, they all make their own choices and have a variety of options for the rest of their lives.

That said, studies have found that being popular and well-liked may actually pose a risk. It can lead to behavioral problems and even legal problems later on.

Teen crime and brain development

Teenagers commit crimes for many reasons: Outside influences, social pressures, economic standing and much more. However, parents often feel stunned when learning that a child got arrested. They cannot believe the child would make that decision.

The thing to remember is that brain development does not really end until someone is in their 20s. As mature as a teen may seem to their parents, modern research has allowed us to look closely at developmental stages of the brain, and these can help to explain thoughts and behaviors at this age. For instance, teens with lower levels of brain development tend not to think about consequences, they make more emotional decisions, they take more risks and they are generally more impulsive.

Courts generally don't want parents to sign away their rights

In some cases, parents have the ability to terminate their parental rights. This is a huge step to take, and it's never something that should be done without careful thought and consideration. It means that the parent is legally cut off from the child and has no more ability to make decisions on their behalf. From a legal standpoint, the two are no longer related.

This is not something that courts want to do. Most of the time, they err on the side of leaving parental rights in place. That's why termination of rights is a request and not a legal action. The court can deny it. They consider things like the best interests of the child, the child's wishes, ability to support the child and safety issues.

Iowa ranks No. 8 in repeat OWI cases

A recent news report took a look at the driving infractions in various states, specifically looking for issues with repeat offenders involving offenses like speeding, operating while intoxicated (OWI) and more. They then ranked the states based on how often these happened.

When looking at the overall statistics, Iowa came in at No. 2 on the list. The only state with more repeat offenses was North Dakota. Right behind Iowa, in the No. 3 spot, was Ohio.

Child support characteristics

When parents decide to separate, a divorce can have as much of an effect on their children as it does upon them. To help maintain a stable environment for the children, parents must put a few processes in place.

Child support is one of the main processes. If you are considering or going through a divorce, there are a few key characteristics of child support that you should be aware of. 

Why does money lead to divorce?

Money is often cited as one of the main reasons for divorce, but have you ever wondered why it is so divisive in modern relationships? While every relationship is unique, there are a few common trends you can find when you look at divorces that revolve around money.

One potential problem is that people have different spending habits, which they may never have talked about before marriage. If one person saves their money for the future and the other spends it quickly, it can lead to a lot of heated arguments. In practicality, both people may feel like the other person's opinion is wrong, leading them to want a new relationship that gives them the control to do whatever they desire.

Telling your children that your marriage is ending

You have had some time to wrap your head around the idea that your marriage is ending. You saw it coming. When your spouse finally filed for divorce, it didn't surprise you. If anything, you thought that it wouldn't take as long as it did.

Your kids, however, have been kept in the dark. You did not want to tell them until you were absolutely sure. Now that you are, you have to gear up for a potentially difficult conversation. How should you approach it?

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