If you are about to divorce, it is important to be realistic. You are very unlikely to find it easy. The rupture of a marriage can be a very difficult time. However, if you are fortunate, you might find it less awful than you feared.
It’s not all sheer luck, though. You can take steps to increase your chances of having a relatively smooth experience. Here are some examples.
Set realistic goals
If you expect to get everything your own way, you are in for a disappointment. Accept that divorce will require a lot of give and take and that your partner also has their wishes regarding certain matters. Once you accept that you will need to compromise, it can help you avoid those situations that often get out of hand where each partner tries to go for the maximum win.
Don’t make it personal
Playing “she said” or “he said” will not help you move forward. Think of it as business you need to sort out rather than a personal score you need to settle. Relationships often change over time, be they business ones, friendships or marriage.
Get help
There are plenty of people who can help you in a divorce – some for free and some for a cost. A therapist could help you deal with the emotional side of things. Friends and family could offer a sympathetic ear, help out with the kids or offer you a place to stay. Having experienced legal guidance will help you understand more about the divorce process and advocate for an appropriate outcome.
