When you can no longer share how your day went with your spouse, you might turn to other audiences. Talking to friends is good, but talking to “friends” might not be.
You may have hundreds or even thousands of so-called friends on social media. Yet most are not your friends at all. They are people you met once or people you might never have met at all. You would not go and shout about your marital issues to a bunch of strangers in a crowded street or shopping mall. So why do it to a bunch of strangers online?
While you might also connect to some of your real friends on social media, there are better and more private ways to tell them how lousy your spouse is. What’s more, chatting in person gives them more chances to support you. A hug emoji is never as good as the real thing.
Aside from shouting into a void, what is wrong with posting about divorce on social media?
Not everyone that sees your post will be on your side. Some may be loyal to your spouse. So even if you block your spouse, the word may still get back to them about your posts. This can be a problem when:
- If you speak badly about your spouse: They could say to a judge that you are causing them emotional distress or have done so for years.
- If you appear to be spending money: You need a break so go away for the weekend with friends. There is nothing wrong with having fun, yet your spouse may allege you are squandering marital assets or have money saved that you have not admitted to.
- If you appear to be with a new romantic partner: They may allege this is the real reason your marriage ended – because you were unfaithful.
Giving social media a break can reduce the chance of auto goals in your divorce. So can getting legal help to guide you to the correct decisions in this challenging time.
