There could come a time in your marriage when you begin to wonder if things are going as planned. Should you be unable to work through your concerns with your spouse, divorce may move to the forefront of your mind.

If the time has come to consider divorce, it’s imperative that you first prepare accordingly. Here are some steps you can take to prepare for this difficult conversation with your spouse, all while positioning yourself for future success.

  • Know what you want to say: If you have the feeling that your spouse doesn’t see your request coming, it can add another layer of complications to the process. Maybe they become upset and angry with you. Maybe they try to talk you out of moving forward. When you know what you want to say, it’s easier to share your thoughts in a clear and thoughtful manner.
  • Stay away from the details: After you lay your feelings on the table, your first instinct is to talk about the details of your divorce. This includes things such as who will stay in the family house, who will have physical custody of your children and what will happen to assets and debts. Talking about this when tensions are high can cause an even bigger divide between the two of you. Stay away from the details for now, as you’ll have time to work through the terms and conditions of your divorce at a later date.
  • Plan for the future: Up front, it seems like the divorce process will drag on forever. However, it’ll come to an end soon enough, at which point you must turn your full attention to the future. By planning in advance, such as by creating a post-divorce budget, it’s easier to hit the ground running when the time comes.

You put a lot of time and thought into filing for divorce. If you realize that it’s the best approach right now, don’t hesitate to take action. Once you share your feelings and understand your legal rights, everything will come together. You can then do your part in building a better life for yourself.